Mrw wrote:I suppose it matters a bit why the boy is switching troops too. If he is moving, or leaving a poorly functioning troop, that is one thing. If he is leaving because his helicopter parents don't think he is advancing fast enough, that is something completely different.
When that has happened to me I do put out some low level inquiries to try and get to the ‘rest of the story.’ But take all that with a grain of salt as there may be baggage all around. I’ve lost respect for esteemed Scouters over their responses to such questions.
However, sometimes a change of scenery can do us all wonders and Scouts are no different. I’ve seen boys really shine with a clean sheet of paper, on both ends of the deal = by gaining and losing from our Troop. But also, unfortunately, have seen that Scouts/Parents can be quitters and shop for units, just like adults that like to keep job hopping becoming a ‘victim’ wherever they go. That said, I don’t see anything wrong with asking a kid that wants ME to sign off on his Eagle papers to put in some time to get to know each other. Is that above and beyond? You bet. But, look kid, if this is your situation and you want me to help, then this is what it’s going to cost you. Not had any turn down my offer yet…
So whatever your 'terms' are for getting involved in this scenario, I implore a meeting containing your SM, ASMs, CC, Adv. Chair, M&D, and him before signing the transfer papers. Be careful, this can all blow up in your face if it isn't handled properly. You trying to give a kid a break can easily end up making you all the bad guys.