by momma_bee » Mon Jul 17, 2006 11:23 am
This is way off of my original topic, but you asked...
Linda - the SM believes that when the boys want to do something they will plan it.
The boys try.
They don't know HOW to plan yet. The SM asks if so-n-so is coming and instead of one kid saying 'I'll call and ask' they all say 'I'll ask at school' and then they all forget. A boy will go home and find out he isn't available that day after all, and dates or times need changed and they are back to square one.
And it snowballs.
BigBee (my son) planned a simple hiking trip last summer. Be at this trailhead at this time. Bring water and snacks. He sent out a postcard 2 weeks ahead of time and no one showed up. Now, the SM's dad was in the hospital, and maybe 1-2 heard that and figured it was cancelled. But NO ONE came and no one made an apology or excuse. No calls to check. And, we asked for an RSVP so we knew who to wait for.
SM planned a hiking trip with Web II den. 3 boys from the troop showed up and one of those hiked ahead of the group. No one else said drats, we couldn't go that day. It didn't make a good impression on the Web II den.
SPL planned a bike hike. 2 kids showed, counting SPL. It was a 'family' event because it is on a public trail. SM offered to drive up bikes if need be, just call him. 2 kids out of 10. It discourages the ones that come.
The kids want to do things, but we live somewhere that you have to be driven and the parents can't be bothered unless you say that it specifically will meet this one requirement/badge.
And our communication is POOR. I take responsiblity for that, only because I know it is a problem and haven't fixed it. I offered to do a newsletter and someone said the boys should do it. (yep, I agree) My son doesn't want to do it. No one else offered to do it, so I may as well start it and see if someone will take over. I suggested a website or egroup (since the papers in the boy's hands do not make it home) and I was told that the parents don't have time to get on the computer.
I'm sure you can see why I'm not optimistic about getting an oppertunity for BigBee to cook.
If we plan the campout portion of it, and he plans the food it allows him to focus on the requirement. But we are all (SM included) burnt out on planning and having no-shows. And, just think of the expense. . . If we have a weekend thing at the Boy Scout camp, there would be lots to do and so planning would be minimal. That would allow the boys to be free to step up and lead. But, if we do that, and there is poor attendance we are out $$$