Fred Johnson wrote:QUESTION - Was the Life BOR done as soon as your son requested a BOR or did he have to wait weeks or months for a troop scheduled BOR? Not sure it makes a difference, but I'm curious.
I ask because, my apologies, the LIFE BOR was a schedule critical BOR. I know I'm one that is often guilty of procrastination. But things don't always turn out good when left to the last minute. I was wondering if your son was very busy with life and other activities ... or if the troop made him wait weeks or months to get his BOR done. Some troops do that. Some troops have only four scheduled BOR dates throughout the year. Other troops hold BORs as soon as possible after requested, often the same night.
If he's going to try to fix the situation, act NOW. If necessary, have him call the district advancement chair. If he does not get a positive answer, have him call the council advancement chair and/or visit in person. If that doesn't work, have him keep escalating the issue.
I'd really hate to see him not earn his eagle over such a small requirement that was not in his scout handbook that gets blown way out of proportion.
The important point is ACT NOW. It may be too late now, but it definitely will be too late if you wait. Also his acting aggressively now on this can affect what happens. In my view, he has a really good argument to make. He just might not know it because he's young.
Just remember...
Eagle scout is not the end-all, be-all of scouts. It's just a rank. Hopefully, your sons enjoy and have benefited from dozens of camp outs, activities, adventures and friendships. These are all growing opportunities.
Finally, I'd take a hard look at the situation and what happened.
(My apologies now to all those great long term Scouters who do a great job every day...) Watch out!!!! There are Scouters (adult leaders) who spend more time protecting the integrity of the Eagle rank and their troop processes than helping every scout succeed.
If that's your son's troop, transfer your other sons. Get them into a different troop. Scouting should be fun and the adult leaders should help every scout succeed.
If I was a leader in your troop and knew the tight time constraint and the single EDGE requirement, I would have helped the scout find the resources to do an EDGE, let him get it done and then get his BOR signed off on the same night. Anything less means the Life BOR is deciding the scout won't be an Eagle because of a small requirement that was not in his scout book that slipped by everyone. (scoutmaster, advancement coordinator, ....) I would have helped the scout solve the issue and put his advancement back in his hands. Hopefully, he'd dig down and get things done.
Because this didn't happen, it makes me wonder about the whole situation. Something doesn't jive.
You have my sympathies.
Good luck!
Thank you for all the replies, they are keeping me sane
My son is definitely guilty of procrastinating, but he did had to wait several weeks for the BOR to be schedule (the boys are used to it), but since there was the problem of the time I had to remind the S.M. that my son was turning 18 soon and he needed to advance or he would never make it.That's why what happen Months latter doesn't make any sense to me...
I really wanted my boys to either quit scouting or consider another Troop, but they don't want to, they are too close to the Eagle rank,(I have another Life and Star scout) they want to finish it, and they don't want to move because they like the "boy ran" (is that the name) style of the Troop. They do get frustrated some times (one of my boys only received his Star badge, 11 months after earning it and at the same time as the Life badge) but overall they like it.
One of my boys earned his Life rank at 14, actually he had it at 13, but again dates got messed up and 1 year was lost. That was fine with me, I didn't like the circumstances, but I even told my son to slow down and take his time on the road from Life to Eagle, but now, I want him to finish as soon as he can,because I don't want for him to be in the same situation as his brother.